Has it really been five years?
I look at the photo of my baby girl swaddled in a pink blanket, her eyes closed, and a yawn scrunching up her cute little face.
My firstborn, the miracle who made me a mother.
My eyes move to the long haired big girl building blocks in front of me. And the memories, rewind, play and fast forward all at once.
Oh how she has grown.
Then there’s the little one with chubby cheeks and wispy hair. She came to us as a surprise, I discovered I was pregnant with her, well into the first trimester.
And now here she is, in front of me, painting swishes of pink and purple. She’s a little lady now she says, she wants to dance ballet.
The screensaver on my husband’s laptop continues to play: a slideshow of our life, one photograph at a time.
It’s amazing how one image can bring a flood of memories. And even if those moments were not as picture perfect as they seem to be, everything else has faded away.
And all I remember is love.
Do you remember what it was like when your kids were young?
I remember those sleepless nights when I cradled my daughters in my arms, I would wish they would grow up so we can do things together.
Tell stories, go on walks, make art, and sing together.
And now here they are. We are doing all those things and so much more.
And yet, sometimes, when the bickering starts and the moodiness strikes, I wish they would be babies again when a soothing lullaby or a musical toy could keep the peace.
Have you ever felt this way?
Oftentimes, it’s easy to forget love when your mind is clouded by stress, frustrations and fears.
The adorable little bundles of joy now seem like noisy and demanding kids who want everything to go their way.
And then it becomes easy to snap, to shout, to throw dagger stares when the tension is high and patience is running low.
Do you want to be more patient? Remember this…
As within, so without.
Whatever you are thinking about will come out in your emotions, your words and your actions.
Want to be more patient? Think about love. Focus on love and see how patience immediately takes its place in your awareness.
Remember how it is defined? Love is patient.
When your children are bickering, fighting or having a tantrum, remember that they are good kids having a bad day.
Play a slideshow in your head of your happy moments together. When you try to rewind them, there will be more than you can possibly count.
Remember that they are your little miracles, teachers who are showing you how to grow your heart so big, it overflows with love.
Can it really be that simple?
Yes, it can be that simple and it’s also not that easy.
There is no secret formula or magic pill that can make you more patient in an instant.
Patience is something that you practice every moment of every day.
You might slip and snap sometimes, and that’s okay.
And most of all, think of love.
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance … love will last forever!”
Practice: Make a slideshow of your children’s photographs in a digital frame or in your laptop and put it in a place where you can see it often. Surround yourself with photographs or things that help bring you happy thoughts and memories.
Now it’s your turn: What other techniques do you have to maintain your patience and happy vibes? I’d love to hear about them in the comments below.